Self-care also involves how we define ourselves

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SELF-DEFINITION- WHAT KIND OF RELATIONSHIP DO YOU HAVE WITH YOURSELF?

Think about the relationships people have with others. There are different kinds of relationships - whether at the family level or with friends.

There are healthy relationships where people build each other. 

There are also unhealthy relationships where people pull each other down. Time and energy are spent criticizing, rather than building each other. 


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But what kind of relationship do you have with yourself? 

Is it a healthy or unhealthy relationship? 

An unhealthy relationship is where you keep bringing yourself down. This can be through, for example, engaging in self-defeating behaviors or tendencies.

It includes becoming  a self negative critic, always self-doubting, pulling yourself down through harsh-judgment and self-destructive criticism.  


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inner critic

Self-criticism may emerge from unresolved past experiences, including those from childhood such as growing up in an emotionally abusive environment. 

A past or current relationship that involves physical, emotional abuse or any other kind of negativity, has the potential to heighten our inner critic.

The inner critic tends to constantly pull us down. Ultimately, one can easily engage in self-destructive habits. This is in opposition to our inner coach that works to give us perspective and focus on solutions.


Countering the inner critic while strengthening the inner coach, is a practice that builds positive self-talk. This involves reframing the negative voices, for example:

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